Tis the season to be… Getting pulled in every which direction?
That’s not how that song’s meant to go, right?
So, why is this happening? And why are you feeling guilty for not being able to give all your energy to each person and every gathering?
It’s not possible to do without you being left running on an empty tank.
You are a businesswoman, you have your own immediate family (even if that’s just you and your dear Mr. Meows-a-lot), and you have your own routine and goals that don’t need to stop for anybody unless you want them to.
Since the very beginning of this month, I have seen countless posts… Friends and fellow sisters in business dreading their ‘obligatory’ gatherings, some literally breaking down because they have so many deadlines that are struggling to hit while trying to make it to all the events they’re invited to.
I think it’s pretty clear that we are all putting way too much pressure on ourselves to be everything, do everything, get everything done, buy all the things, and make everyone else happy, forgetting to be gentle with ourselves.
There is no need to put so much pressure on yourself, babe.
If you don’t feel like going to that Christmas party your ex-colleague invited you to, don’t go.
If your aunt Margaret has already let you know that she’s expecting you at her annual Christmas Eve party, it is okay for you to let her know you might just have to catch up with her in the new year. It’s okay.
I’m not going to sit here and preach to you, but I really do want to get the message across that you don’t have to give every single ounce of your energy to make others happy.
You, who, and what you value most in this world, are what truly matter. Your goals matter. Your dreams matter. Your time is valuable and totally non-refundable.
One of the major ways to protect your energy is by setting and being clear about your personal boundaries.
I’ve been learning a tonne about this myself, recently, from Dr. LePera (aka The Holistic Psychologist). If you haven’t heard of her before, I highly recommend jumping straight onto IG once you finish this article, and following her for a tonne of free and easily accessible info.
You won’t regret it.
What I’ve learnt and want to share with you today is that you are always in charge of what you allow to affect you. This seems obvious, right? If you’re like ‘nope!’, I totally get it!
I always thought about how others behave around me, the choices that the people surrounding me make will affect me whether I like it or not.
News flash, babe. You are always in control of what you let in.
You have the power to block the negative energies that do not serve you.
Setting clear boundaries and sticking to them is one of the key ways of doing this successfully.
If you’d like to learn more about setting boundaries, here is a shortlist of my go-to’s:
We are here for you, and you are always welcome to reach out to us. I hope this article finds you well and serves you in some positive way. If you have any questions or would like to share your experiences with protecting your energy during the holidays, we would love to hear from you.
Happy holidays, babe! 😉